… or some of all of these?
You may already be familiar with thinking about communication styles as passive, passive-aggressive, or assertive. Rebecca Shafir, author of The Zen of Listening: Mindful Communication in the Age of Distraction, offers a handy online chart (Communication Styles: A Personal Checklist) for getting to know even better our own dispositions and preferences—whether we are most concerned with expressing ourselves, making things happen, relating to others, or analyzing the situation. Those familiar with Lineman’s account of the three main goals in interpersonal situations (Objectives, Relationships, and Self-Respect) may find interesting correlates here. Shafir’s chart also helps to sort out how the conventional categories of passive, passive-aggressive and assertive sort out in terms of what each communicates to others about everyone’s relative importance in an interpersonal situation, as well as the verbal and non-verbal kinds of communication that are typical of each communication style, and some consequences of adopting each approach. This is useful information to consider as you are getting to know your own interpersonal style and developing skills and techniques to build relationships that you can want to have.
Link here to a personal narrative about depression and DBT by journalist Will Lippincott in the New York Times. Lippincott describes his early encounters with distress tolerance skills as well as the ways that DBT skills training has helped him in the long term to gain control over his troubling states of mind. A great introduction to DBT from a patient’s perspective. And an inspiring story.
The Lakeview Center is pleased to announce that Kelly Logan, PsyD, will be starting a new DBT Skills Training Group on Monday evenings from 7 to 8:30 pm beginning in November. Please visit our web page for more information about our DBT program and for contact and other information about the group.
Kelly Logan, holds a PsyD from the Adler School of Professional Psychology. She is a therapist at Linden Oaks at Edward Hospital where she is a DBT staff trainer and inpatient therapist. Kelly received her master’s degree from The Chicago School of Professional Psychology in 2008. She has over ten years’ experience working in outpatient, partial hospitalization, intensive outpatient, shelter, and inpatient settings with adults and adolescents. Kelly specializes in work with individuals with mood disorders, relationship issues, identity formation, anxiety, self-injury, binge eating, and other impulse control disorders. Kelly has completed trainings in both Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). DBT seeks to empower individuals and enhance their quality of living by providing skills training in areas such as relationship effectiveness, emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and mindfulness.
Rachel Gill, a four-year veteran of DBT for Borderline Personality Disorder, offers helpful guidance through a range of DBT skills and concepts. If you’re feeling stressed and like you could use a reminder of how DBT helps us self-regulate, click here to have a look at one of her videos.